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August 21, 2017

Cyberbullying: Guideline for Parents (中文)



Definition of Cyberbullying

“Cyberbullying” is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another Child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. (stopcyberbullying.org)

Types of Cyberbullying

  • Sending mean or threatening messages to a person’s cell phone or email account.
  • Creating a screen name that is similar to another kid’s name, and using it to spread online rumours and hurt others.
  • Stealing a person’s account, pretending to be that person, and sending damaging messages.
  • Posting hurtful messages on others’ blogs and social network pages. Damaging the person’s reputation or invading their privacy.
  • Taking, sending and spreading unflattering pictures of a person through e-mail and cell phones.
  • Internet polling on offensive and disrespectful topics.
  • Sending malicious codes that contain viruses, spyware and hacking programs.
  • Sending porn, junk e-mail and IMs.
  • Cyberbullying through proxy: the bully gets control of the victim’s account and sends out hateful or rude messages to everyone on their buddy list, pretending to be the victim. (stopcyberbullying.org)

Impacts
Risks for Victims:

  • Anxiety, fear and depression
  • Anger, irritability and urge to take revenge
  • Feelings of vulnerability and powerlessness
  • Self-blame and low self-esteem
  • Loneliness and isolation
  • Stress related health problems (e.g., sleep disturbances, somatic complaints)
  • School absenteeism and academic problems
  • Loss of interest in life
  • Thoughts or attempts of suicide

Risks for Bullies

  • Possibilities of becoming the victim of cyberbullying themselves
  • Difficulties in maintaining relationships with others
  • Poor academic performance and increased rate of school dropout
  • Potential risk of getting addicted to illegal drugs and/or alcohol
  • Aggressive behaviors, delinquency, gang involvement and criminal adulthood
  • Early sexual activity, sexual harassment and dating violence

Common Signs of Experiencing Cyberbullying

  • Your child suddenly deletes his/her social networking profile and account (s).
  • A lot of new texts, phone numbers and email addresses begin appearing on your child’s mobile phone and email.
  • Your child starts to block one or more numbers or email addresses from their social networking accounts or emails.
  • Your child begins to avoid using mobile phones or computers, instead, spending more time on texting or social networking sites.
  • Your child appears to be upset, withdrawn or angry after receiving emails or messages.
  • Your child begins to avoid talking about his/her usage of phone or computer, or other related topics.
  • Your child tends to be unwilling to leave the room, or withdraws from their favorite social activities.
  • Your child’s academic performance begins to decline.
  • Your child is unwilling or resistant to go to school.
  • Your child appears unusually sad, frustrated, impatient or angry.
  • Your child has problems with sleeping, or loses appetite.

What can Parents do?

  • Familiarize yourself with social networks such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, etc., and encourage your child to show his/her personal page.
  • Discuss with your child regularly and specifically about issues online. Let him/her know that if anything happens, he/she can always turn to you.
  • Build trust with your child. Discuss internet safety and usage rules, such as time limitation, and explain your reasons.
  • Let your child participate and contribute in the process of establishing rules, this will make him/her more willing to comply.
  • Tell your child not to respond to cyberbullying; and to inform you immediately if it happens. Ask him/her not to delete the evidence until he/she has shown you. The bully’s e-mail or network name should be kept.
  • You should communicate with school social workers or teachers, enabling them to pay attention to the bullying.
  • Do not blame your child if he/she is being bullied, parents need to understand that most children do not disclose that they are being bullied due to fear of consequences online, at school, or from their peer groups. Parents should find out how long the cyberbullying has been going on, and ensure that you and your child will work together to find solutions.
  • Do not underestimate the severity of cyberbullying, which can cause profound emotional pain to children.
  • Do not threaten to confiscate your child’s computer or other electronic devices as it will only force them to conceal the truth.
  • If the situation worsens, you may wish to involve the police and have them provide further intervention.


網絡欺凌:家長指引 (English)

網絡欺凌定義

「網絡欺凌」是指未成年人通過社交網絡、電話或互動媒體等以騷擾、威脅、羞辱的方式傷害其他未成年人。

網絡欺凌的形式

  • 向他人手機或電子郵箱傳送惡意或威脅信息。
  • 利用與他人相似名字註冊網絡賬號來散佈謠言/傷害他人。
  • 竊取他人網絡賬號與密碼,冒稱他人進行破壞性活動。
  • 在博客或社交網站發帖侮辱他人,損毀他人名譽或侵犯他人私隱。
  • 未經他人允許拍攝並公開或散佈其不雅照片。
  • 在網站上進行冒犯他人人格的民意調查。
  • 發佈或傳送帶病毒的網絡連結。
  • 發佈色情或其他垃圾郵件與短訊,利用不知情的第三方通過以上方式傷害他人。

網絡欺凌的影響
對受欺凌青少年的危害

  • 社會焦慮症、抑鬱症及驚恐
  • 憤恨、復仇及易怒
  • 脆弱及無力感
  • 自責及自我形象低落
  • 寂寞及孤立
  • 由壓力所引起的健康問題,如睡眠問題、頭痛、胃痛等
  • 逃學及學業問題
  • 對生活失去興趣
  • 萌生自殺意念或自殺行為

對欺凌者的危害

  • 可能成為被欺凌者
  • 與他人相處時面臨困難
  • 學業問題及退學率上升
  • 增加濫用藥物或酒精的機會
  • 少年犯罪及攻擊性行為
  • 過早的性行為,及增加性騷擾和約會暴力的傾向
  • 導致日後發生家庭暴力

您的孩子可能在進行或者被網絡欺凌,如果他們:

  • 突然刪除所有社交網絡賬號資料。
  • 手機或者電郵突然出現很多新信息、新號碼和新地址。
  • 在個人社交網頁或者電子賬號中封鎖他人。
  • 突然減少手機或電腦的使用;或相反地突然花更多的時間在短訊與社交網站上。
  • 在收到郵件或短訊後顯得不安、退縮或憤怒。
  • 避免談論關於手機與電腦使用的相關話題。
  • 不願意離開自己的房間,或不再參與原先喜歡的社交活動。
  • 學習成績開始退步。
  • 不願意或者完全抗拒上學。
  • 突然變得憂傷、挫敗、不安和煩躁
  • 食慾不振,有睡眠問題。

家長可以做什麼

  • 應熟悉各種社交網站如 Facebook、Twitter、Tumblr 等,並鼓勵您的孩子向您展示他們的個人頁面。
  • 應和孩子定期和具體地討論網上問題。讓他們知道如果發生什麼事情,他們可以隨時向您求助。
  • 應與孩子建立信任關係。討論網上安全和互聯網的使用規則,如限制使用時間,並解釋您的理由。讓您的孩子參與建立規則,使他們更願意遵守。
  • 應告訴您的孩子不要對網絡欺凌作出回應。不要刪除任何信息。相反,應把欺凌者的電子郵件或網絡名稱列印出來。這些信息將成為網絡欺凌的證據。
  • 應與學校社工或教師保持溝通,使他們能夠留意校園內有沒有欺凌問題。
  • 不應責怪您的孩子。如果他們被人欺凌,家長應持諒解和支持的態度。孩子不願意跟父母透露被欺凌是因為他們害怕被指責。家長應了解欺凌持續多久,並向孩子確保您們將共同尋找解決方案。
  • 不應輕視孩子被欺凌的嚴重性。欺凌會帶來情感上的痛苦,並有持久的影響。
  • 不應威脅要沒收您孩子的電腦,這只會令孩子向父母隱瞞。
  • 如欺凌持續升級,應立即要求警方介入。

資料來源:Chinese Family Services of Ontario 家和專業輔導中心