“Positive parenting – sometimes called positive discipline, gentle guidance, or loving guidance – is simply guidance that keeps our kids on the right path, offered in a positive way that resists any temptation to be punitive.
Studies show that’s what helps kids learn consideration and responsibility, and makes for happier kids and parents.“ – Dr. Laura Markham
A safe and engaging environment must be ensured for children of all ages. In order to promote a healthy development and prevent accidents at home, this principle is essential.
Besides a safe environment, children also need a positive learning environment. Parents are their children’s first teacher and set an example (right or wrong) in everything that they do. They teach their kids how to walk, how to speak and how to socialize. Parents need to positively respond to their child’s needs and interactions.
The next principle is to use an assertive discipline. The right management strategies must be used to discipline children. Instead of physical punishment, parents are taught to use more effective strategies. These strategies include the setting up of rules for specific situations, discussing these rules with children, using quiet time and timeouts, etc.
Sometimes parents have unrealistic expectations for their children. This could lead to parents abusing and neglecting their children. Having realistic expectations helps children to appropriately develop.
The last principle is to take care of oneself as a parent. Being a parent can be stressful. All levels of Triple P encourage parents to view parenting as part of a larger context related to self-care, resourcefulness, well-being and maintaining self-esteem.
Have you ever played peek-a-boo with your child and then they start doing it back to you? Our children learn from everything we do and our actions directly impact them and how they choose to behave.
Our kids are continuously watching us and even if they’re not, we should certainly act like they are. If you want your kid to develop manners, you need to model them.
If you want your kid to share, you should demonstrate sharing with them. Children evolve within the environment they are brought up in and modeling appropriate behavior influences positive behavior.
As a kid, “house” is a common game children would play. It was actually one of my favorites. I would make my mom hold the plastic pots and forks, stirring imaginary macaroni. It might just seem like a simple game, but in reality, it develops the child’s brain and teaches them basically how to do life.
Play is a vital component to developing the child cognitively, socially, and emotionally. It allows you to connect with your child.
Here are some tips on play and ways to implement them:
3. Social Interaction
“Never fear spoiling children by making them too happy. Happiness is the atmosphere in which all good affections grow.” – Thomas Bray
Developing and maintaining friendships allow children to grow. Social interaction provides advances in social skills, emotional intelligence, and cognitive development. Whether it’s just a few hours at the park or a play date with a friend, you’re giving your child the chance to interact with the world and life itself.
It can also be used as a means of learning. They will learn to share and when to use appropriate behaviors, as well as when not to.
Positive parenting if done correctly builds positive emotions and heightens self-esteem in parent and child, not just the child. One cannot look back at a different time and think that what was done that should be done now, only because it was done before.
In many ways, we could say that today’s challenges with violence and drug abuse are directly related to yesterday’s parenting. But whether that is true or not is irrelevant, since “yesterday was a different world,” says Louise a mental health counseling expert.
4. Talk and Listen
Maintaining a close positive relationship ensures that your child is comfortable in confiding with you, as he or she should be. It is important to be avid participants in your child’s life.
Also, actively listening to them when they come and talk to you is important in maintaining this positive relationship. Encourage your child to ask you questions. This will result in your child being comfortable to come to you now and even later in life.
The earlier years of your child’s development are most important for developing this positive relationship.
5. Positive Relationship with Your Partner
It is crucial to realize that your child is a mirror image of the how you hold yourself and your relationship with your partner. They notice the way you both act when you’re around each other and this could positively or negatively impact your child’s development, believe it or not.
Enough times, children are brought up in an emotionally abusive home and this negatively affects how they think and feel.